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Finding Your Purpose Through Healing

Finding Your Purpose Through Healing

As we continue to live and adjust during this pandemic, we are learning more about ourselves and others. Covid has been called “The Great Awakener” because we have been forced to slow down and have gained a better understanding of what really matters in life. When we begin to have a deeper understanding of ourselves and our priorities, we can begin to heal and find purpose.

 

CHOOSING LOVE OVER FEAR

We are all here for a reason. What if our job at this time of great change in the world is to “wake up”? During this great awakening, awaken to the pieces in yourself that are out of balance – the parts that need love and healing, remembering and reconnection. There are a lot of scary external things going on in the world that are out of our control, so we have to turn inward to love and care for ourselves so we can heal and support others.

 

HEALING THE WOUNDS OF OUR CHILD CONSCIOUSNESS

As we self-reflect and turn inwards, we become more aware of the parts of us that need healing, and it’s often that inner child that lives in all of us. Whether you suffered from trauma, neglect, or lack of nourishment – no matter how small or extreme – it stays with us into adulthood. If they were painful experiences, we try to block it out, which prevents that part of us from healing. As we work to heal that inner child, we bridge the gap between the child and our positive adult self. We can begin to heal the whole self, past and present, and support others on their paths of healing.

 

“PEOPLE BECOME PEOPLE THROUGH OTHER PEOPLE”

We aren’t meant to awaken and heal on our own. Although inner work and healing is personal, we need the support of other people. It’s OK to need others and ask for help. Adults, especially those who have experienced trauma, neglect, or lack of parental support during early childhood, have a tendency to push through life with an overcompensated sense of self-sufficiency. But we aren’t meant to go it alone. We are spiritual beings having a human experience. We need the connection with and support of others as guides on our path of healing and awakening.

 

WHAT IS YOUR LIFE’S PURPOSE?

Why are we here? The awakening and healing process allows us to remember our gifts. What have we come here to do? How can we use our gifts to be of service to others on their own paths of awakening? Rather than focusing on productivity, getting work done, or checking off items on our “to-do” lists, we can spend this time healing ourselves with the support of others, and acting as a guide to support others. Who are your people? Reconnect with yourself and others so we can collectively heal. Perhaps that is our purpose during this time.

 

No one can do this work on their own – we need the presence of another person to accompany us on that journey inward to be supported or challenged. If you need support during this process of awakening and internal healing, I’m here for you. Contact me online or email me at [email protected].

Posted by Kim Ann Clay in Psychotherapy
Finding the Light During the Darkest Night

Finding the Light During the Darkest Night

Winter solstice in the Northern Hemisphere this year occurred on Monday December 21, 2020 at 5:02am EST. It is the celebration of the Light representing death and rebirth, as the old Sun dies and the Sun of the new year is born on the longest night of the year. The word “solstice” comes from the Latin word sol (sun) and sistere (to stand still). It has been observed and celebrated in cultures all over the world for thousands of years. It represents surviving hardship, turning a corner, and welcoming brighter days ahead.

 

HONORING OUR ANCESTORS

The Winter Solstice and holidays also marks an important time for remembering and connecting with family and loved ones and honoring ancestors. Many of the customs, symbols, and rituals associated with Christmas are actually connected to Winter Solstice celebrations of the holidays or ‘holy days’ of ancient Pagan cultures. These rituals, traditions, and stories exist to remind us of deeper truths.

For many people the holidays this year may be an emotionally challenging time, given cautions around family and friends gathering together, and especially for those who may be mourning the loss of loved ones. Through remembering our inner Light, we can also remember and connect to the light and love of our deceased loved ones and our ancestors who passed their light and love onto us.

 

RECONNECT TO THE LIGHT OF YOUR SOUL

This has been a difficult year for all of us, but the solstice reminds us that brighter days await us. But rather than waiting for the light to shine on us, we have to embrace the darkness around us and find the light within. The dark days during this time of year are a powerful time for turning within inviting reflection, renewal, and reconnecting to the light of your soul. The solstice is a time in the year when it’s the darkest, so we have to trust the cycle, embrace the shift, and go inward to access our light. The changing light is part of the rhythm of what it means to be human.

Sometimes we can’t do this work of turning inward on our own. We need the presence of another human being to accompany us on that journey inward to help us find our power and light. Someone to remind us that darkness and shifting cycles are inevitable, but we all have the power within ourselves to overcome obstacles.

As we turn this corner, we head into a new era filled with light and hope. It is at this darkest moment that we know it will only get lighter. It is not always easy to see the light and find hope. If you need support, I am here for you. Contact me to get guidance and support, and to find your inner light.


“Solstice means “sun stands still,” as if the warmth and radiance of life itself hangs in the balance at critical points in the course of planetary existence. When the world becomes darker, the inner light of the soul becomes more important.”

~ Michael Meade


Posted by Kim Ann Clay in Family Constellation, Psychotherapy